According to children’s psychologists, for the proper development of the child, it must be praised quite often, and this should be done correctly. And it does not matter at all, for what – even if there is no visible reason for praise, a caring and loving parent should come up with him. Experts say that praise has a beneficial effect on health and mood even in an adult, and what can we say about the baby! But, unlike us, adults, kids cannot praise themselves, so adults around the child should do as often as possible as often as possible. But how to praise the child correctly and for the benefit for him?
Imagine that praise is a kind of medicine that must be given to the child dosed and on time. Only then will it go for the good. First of all, the child needs to be praised sincerely and from the heart, because children intuitively very well distinguish the truth from lies, and your praise, coming not from the heart, can even cause a child to insult. If your child tries, for example, to collect his toys, but he does it so far because of his age is bad – do not scold him, but evaluate his efforts with sincere praise. Show him how to do this correctly – and then the baby will have an incentive to further development.
Not forgetting that praise can be equated with medicine, praise the baby only when he is really worthy. What is given to your child without difficulty does not require praise, otherwise soon a praised teenager will grow out of a sweet child who will most likely consider himself a real genius. In the case when the baby has a talent since childhood, for example, to drawing, do not praise him for each, given to him with ease, drawing. Let him wait for your praise and hear it only when the next stage in the art of painting passes.
Praise your baby, in no case use the comparison method! Evaluate your child’s successes in their fact, not forgetting to repeat that his peers and friends have talents that may have not yet been disclosed or disclosed, but not yet completely.
Praise can be depreciated if the child will listen to her from your lips many times a day. Its number also needs to be skillfully regulated and sometimes even consciously reduced. Remember the well -known folk wisdom that everything is good in moderation – this statement also applies to the praise of children. Given the children’s psyche, you, as a wise parent, must understand that an excess of praise can cause a certain dependence in a child. And then, if the baby does not often hear the words from the people around him that he is the most intelligent, talented and beautiful, the child will begin to experience real stress, poorly affecting his still immature psyche.
Remember that it is necessary to praise a specific act of your offspring, and not his personality, so as not to form an increased conceit about his person.
For example, if a child helped you move heavy furniture, do not tell him how well done he is. Make your son to evaluate his actions himself, and just state the fact how hard it would be for you to do it without his help. Then the child will certainly draw from your words the conclusion that he is a strong and committed the right act, that he will motivate him to perform such actions in the future.
As you can see, even praising the child should be correctly so as not to cause him psychological harm. Adhere to the above and easy to fulfill the councils when educating your heir, and then he will grow up confident in his abilities and a balanced person who can objectively evaluate himself as a person and give the right assessment to all his actions.