Families with two children recently become more and more. And almost every young parents face the problem of jealousy between babies, and the older child is usually jealous. The easiest way to write off the first -hand behavior to the whims and its bad character, but, according to children’s psychologists, in fact, the older child really finds himself in a difficult situation for him. To avoid this, mom and dad should correctly explain to their firstborn what happened in their family, and try not to make typical mistakes of the parents faced with this problem. So, how can you avoid jealousy between children?
Most often, jealousy begins to appear at the moment when a newborn appears in the family. Try to understand your eldest son or daughter – after all, before that all your attention belonged to him only to him – you told him fairy tales for the night, you played and painted with him, went for walks and prepared his favorite dishes for him. Naturally, now that a chest baby has appeared in the family, the attention of his parents is aimed at him, and the eldest child begins to think that he was simply loving loving. This conclusion negatively affects the unstable children’s psyche, so try to avoid such a situation and correctly prepare your first -born for the appearance of a brother or sister.
The main mistake of many parents is that they, telling their child about the upcoming increase in the family, begin to immediately inform him that he will soon have a partner for games. When a mother with a newborn comes from the hospital, who, of course, cannot play yet, the older child feels deceived and offended. To avoid jealousy between children in the future, tell the firstborn the truth and show him his photos, where he was also very small and only learned to sit or crawl. Bring to your older child the idea that you need to educate the younger crumbs and his help – this will allow the child not to feel lonely and perceive what is happening correctly.
No need to constantly repeat the older child that you love him more – these are the children, as a rule, remember very quickly, and then they refer to such a statement with quarrels with a sister or brother. In order to have no jealousy between your younger offspring, try to share your mother’s love in half, proving this with a matter. For example, while grandparents walk with the younger, prepare his favorite cake for the older child or read his favorite book. Try to distribute your free time so that not a single child feels infringed and offended.
Never punish the child on the principle – no matter what happens, the first -born is always to blame, because he is older. If you see that the conflict is brewing between the children, do not find out who was its initiator. It will be better if you ask the children to just stop it, or try to switch their attention to something more interesting.
One child cannot be punished, and the other should be praised – if the situation is serious, punish both at once. You also need to praise children together – invent general instructions for them or give them easy tasks in the house – the more they will be, the less they will have reasons for jealousy. Do not praise each of them separately – try to say as often as possible that, only by completing the task in the team, you can do it well. If you decide to encourage your children – it is better to select the same way for this – so you will also be able to avoid the appearance of a sense of jealousy between your children.