People do not always live in peace and harmony. And often one person can quite hurt or offend another person with his act. The resentment that you keep in yourself destroys you from the inside. Without forgiving the offender, you first make it worse only for yourself. Therefore, it is important to learn how to forgive and let go of resentment. It is possible that you will have to repeat the recommendations below more than once before you can forgive all insults.
How to learn to forgive resentment
It is important to understand that it does not mean to forgive this at all that you forget the resentment or consent to the resentment can repeat itself. On the contrary, forgiveness is necessary if you want to understand that you do not want such a situation to repeat.
As mentioned above, resentment harms you more than your offender. After all, you are angry and experience tension. It is you who constantly scroll through the head of the situation when you express everything you want to the offender. Instead of forgiving and forgetting, continuing to enjoy life, on the contrary, you live the past and constantly be upset due to the pain that you were caused. Your offender is unlikely to get away due to what he did. Therefore, you should not spend your life on such emotions. If you want to take revenge on the offender, then your calmness and cheerfulness will be the best revenge.
Try to make a list of all your grievances that you have accumulated.
Then analyze each of the situations you listed. Evaluate your share of responsibility in these situations. Could you get away from this situation or vice versa you contributed to its development. If your fault in the development of this situation is also then and you are responsible for everything that happened. The faster you realize all this, the faster you can let go of the offense.
How to learn to forgive resentment
Remember that another person who offended you did everything as he could. He is not perfect, he also has disadvantages. Of course, you think that you would never have done so. However, this is not so. If you were a person with his character education and other things would have done in the same way. Remember that this situation arose not because of you, but because the attempt of another person to satisfy his needs was unsuccessful.
Think about what you get in response to your grievances. After all, to be offended is a completely useless and ungrateful lesson. Do not think that the more you keep this insult in yourself, the more you will punish this offender. This is not at all like. Also, your resentment does not at all guarantee that the next time the offender will behave differently and will not do this to you again.
If you already feel that you are ready to forgive the insult, then you need to imagine the person who offended you in front of you. Tell him that you are forgiven him and no longer angry with him. Imagine how you wish the offender good luck and happiness and free yourself from these shackles. And remember that the main thing here is not your offender in this action, but your newly acquired opportunity to rejoice and enjoy life.
How to learn to forgive resentment
Come up with a certain ritual that will symbolize the breakup between you and your grievances. For example, you can visualize this process, burn a list of grievances or make a boat out of it and let it down along the river.
Use these recommendations to get rid of offenses. If your resentment is still too strong, then for the first time you can only relieve your pain. You will manage to completely get rid of offenses only by making these recommendations several times. If you want to enjoy life, do not destroy it with negative emotions, but better begin to enjoy life, letting go of all the insults.