Many people believe that the words “not educated” or “spoiled” can set the meanings of equality. Today, many psychologists believe that in modern parents there is the main rule: I will give my child what I did not have. And this is a huge mistake. Many mothers and dads of their child spoil various valuable things, indulge all his whims and do not at all engage in his education. Signs of spoiling of such a child are obvious.
For example, a small child appeared in the family, and parents cannot get enough of them and do everything for this so that their baby does not need anything. And if anything will go wrong, parents always have an accusation of someone else, but not the behavior of their child. Many parents try to buy things with all their might, even if they have no need and opportunity.
At this time, the child does not know that they have problems with the means and ceases to appreciate what they do for him and grows an egoist, an ordinary emotionally cold man who does not know how to communicate with loved ones and surrounding people.
How to re -educate a spoiled child? Fulfilling all his desires, you show him that the interests of others do not need to take into account. Indeed, with the right personality formation from a very early age, the development of relationships with others, your child should understand the line, where his personality begins the personality of another. Often speaking to your child “you can’t” and “you can” you will not harm him, but on the contrary, you help to establish a certain framework in relationships with others. Only with the help of parents such a child learns to completely control his emotions, adequately respond to many difficulties.
If you decide to refuse him in anything, then be sure to explain to him why in this case “impossible”. Tell your baby that you love him very much, but you just don’t have the opportunity to buy him at the moment or that you are upset not good deeds. He must clearly know where the border between “can” and “impossible”! Do not make a mistake when today you told the child “no”, and tomorrow you will say “yes” at his request.
It often happens, you go in, for some kind of store and your child begins to ask, knocking your feet, demanding to buy toys. You are in complete shock from his behavior, of course you are embarrassed and here nothing new comes to mind how to satisfy his desire. In this situation, it is better to try to explain everything clearly to him that you will communicate with him only when it calms down. And, in the end, he will definitely understand that his poor behavior will not give him anything good. The tantrum will quickly pass if parents show that they are all indifferent.
If there are difficulties with refusal, then try to delay the time of response to its persistent requests.