It would seem that the tradition of holding the engagement before the wedding has gone from us in the distant past. But, nevertheless, all the same as several centuries ago, the parents of the bride and the groom themselves and the newlyweds themselves are gathering together a few months before the wedding to discuss the coming, most important event for both families. But this is the engagement, which should be no less solemn than the wedding. And the engagement should be carried out in compliance with traditions.
The initiator of the engagement should be the relatives of the groom with him at the head – they offer parents the bride’s place and time of the meeting. Today, there are no strict rules regarding where this important event should take place. The main thing is that it is convenient for all invited – it can be an apartment or house of the groom’s parents, their favorite cafe or a beautiful place to relax outside.
It is not customary to invite many guests to conduct an engagement – only parents, sisters and brothers of the bride and groom should be on it. According to tradition, the groom asks their daughter’s hands with the bride’s father and, after the consent of his future father -in -law, presents his bride with a ring that she should wear before the wedding day. After the wedding, it is removed and, if the family life of the young develops successfully, the ring is inherited from generation to generation. The engagement ring, according to tradition, must be golden. As a rule, small rings decorated with one or more precious pebbles are ideal for this case.
The next point that you should pay attention to is a festive table for which guests are invited. Considering that the biggest spending the bride and groom will have to be still ahead, you can not spend much on snacks and conduct a engagement in the style of a cocktail party. But, of course, if you want to treat your potential relatives from the heart, you may not be stingy.
Strong drinks should not be served on the engagement – it is better to limit yourself to wine or champagne, since you have to discuss many important organizational issues. Their list usually includes questions about the wedding motorcade, organizing and conducting a wedding banquet, discussing the place of its holding, the number of guests and menu, an invitation of a photographer and a video operator. But, at the same time, this event should not go to the business meeting, where only financial and business issues are discussed.
Do not forget that you need to exchange gifts and flowers on the engagement. So, for example, the groom must certainly present a bouquet of flowers not only to his chosen one, but also to her mother. Gifts should not be very expensive – it is better that they are symbolic and correspond to this significant event.
Even if your future relatives are very pleasant people, during the engagement you should only contact them by name and patronymic. As you know, life is unpredictable, therefore it is possible that the engagement may not end in the wedding.
At the end of the engagement, lovers can afford to be alone. To do this, they can go to a romantic candlelight dinner. Relatives of young people can give their children an unusual and original gift, for example, a joint journey in a balloon, but, naturally, planning such an original present, you need to find out if anyone from the young against such an event will be there.
Unfortunately, sometimes the engagement still does not lead to the wedding and is terminated – in this case, following the traditions, it is recommended to return expensive gifts to the donor.
Of course, engagement is not a wedding, but if you wish, you can capture for the descendants – and, perhaps, decades will pass, and it is these photos that will be the most beloved by your children, grandchildren or great -grandchildren.